I am not ashamed to say that women are a mystery to me. Actually, I’m kind of proud of it. I don’t think I’d like living in the tangled web of thoughts that go on it a woman’s head. I’m a simple guy…and simple is just fine by me.
Some women on Facebook like to post the prerequisites that define a “real man.” This seems strange because their personal histories show they clearly don’t know how to pick one out of the crowd. I’ve come to the conclusion that “real man” in woman-speak means what I want a man to be like or what I’m looking for in a man. When they do seem to settle on one, they tend to complain about having to shape (train, is their word) him to fit into the mold they’ve made and demote him to “unreal man” territory if he bucks the process.
I’m not complaining or saying any of this is a bad thing, I’m saying this is what I have observed. As a side note here, I was a nurse for over twenty-five years. I have been around a lot of women. It may be true that nurses are not the best at choosing men, at least, that thought has crossed my mind frequently.
Be that as it may, I did not sit down to write about what women think. I’d be typing in the dark. I sat down here to write about what men think constitutes a “real man.” Guys, I’d love to hear from you on the subject, but until then we are stuck with my opinion with a few historical notes thrown in.
Aristotle addresses the issue in his Ethics. “He is best of all who of himself conceiveth all things; good again is he who too can adopt a good suggestion; but who so neither of himself conceiveth nor hearing from another layeth it to heart—he is a useless man.
Get that? Best of all is the guy who figures things out for himself! Now you know why men are loathed to ask directions until they have exhausted their own supply of reason. A “real man” thinks things through for himself and thus becomes himself.
A good man will follow good advice and become the model others set down. I think this is motivation for every father. A good father, being his own man, is able to instruct his sons from the storehouse of the things he has reasoned. Good sons, in turn, listen and form a base from which to reason (conceive) things for themselves.
Likewise, good soldiers receive good advice (training) along with the admonishment to “improvise, adapt, overcome.” That is, they go from instruction or advise to reasoning for themselves to fit advice to a given situation.
It is a useless man does neither. He is a slave to his natural instincts and appetites. He cannot help but become, at once, the bane and the desire of the like-minded. As reasoning and adopting sound advice fade from our society in favor of the current fade or gender-neutral indoctrination, we can expect to see more of the decline of real masculinity currently underway.
One more quick reference from a man of whom God said was a man after his own heart, David the king.
“Blessed is the man that walks not in the counsel of the ungodly, nor stands in the way of sinners, nor sits in the seat of the scornful. But his delight is in the law of the Lord; and in his law does he meditate day and night.”
Okay, real men sound off. What do you think makes a “real man?”